tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7807842629602038882.post5862762756701380870..comments2023-10-31T23:47:45.083+11:00Comments on Comments on Life: So Long As It's Healthy...Rachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08307662048799733158noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7807842629602038882.post-18435447928218056402008-11-22T18:56:00.000+11:002008-11-22T18:56:00.000+11:00Yes, an interesting one. I had my 12 week ultraso...Yes, an interesting one. I had my 12 week ultrasound for two reasons... 1) I had problems early in the pregnancy and was basically a pincushin in order to give Sean the best chance of survival. 2)I am jolly curious.<BR/><BR/>I would have my child no matter what, but see "knowing" beforehand as merely a preparation for the birth and life afterwards. We took long enough to have Sean, and haven't as yet been blessed with another, that I really do not mind what God entrusts us with.<BR/><BR/>I too was horrified when the idea of terminating IF I had a Down's Syndrome child. I actually told the doctor (who thankfully is not my regular GP) my views on terminating for such a situation, and that I certainly would not be if the situation arose.<BR/><BR/>Kath :) (happy to discuss "offline" if anyone wishes to).Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09221825481373764540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7807842629602038882.post-77968643959900572722008-10-23T15:18:00.000+11:002008-10-23T15:18:00.000+11:00I tend to agree with Laura's comment. I think it's...I tend to agree with Laura's comment. I think it's natural and desirable to want to have a healthy baby and to express this openly. I guess I have been saying "as long as it's healthy, or alive" because I do want a baby that's alive! I have a deep-seated fear that I'll have a still-born and am trying to brace myself if this is the case. <BR/>I understand that it may perhaps reflect a lack of trust in God's better plans if we only think about having healthy babies, but it also shows how we are so affected by sin. <BR/>Anyway, thanks for your thoughts. They are really good to mull over. I'm having my 19 week ultrasound on Monday morning and am excited to see another image of Dotti. Don't want to find out the gender...as long as she's healthy ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7807842629602038882.post-39965287138000702182008-10-20T15:01:00.000+11:002008-10-20T15:01:00.000+11:00I totally understand your perspective, but I can a...I totally understand your perspective, but I can also see myself siding with the flip side of the coin, in that it is a natural and desirable outcome to have a healthy baby born with all their digits/etc as God intended pre-fall, and I would/will still make a similar statement desiring their good health to those I speak with regarding my own children.<BR/><BR/>Grief over a baby's illhealth/ deformities is a natural response, I think, because of the unknown challenges ahead and possible lifelong complications, and strain emotionally, relationally, physically and financially. <BR/><BR/>My love for my child would not change, but there would be great sadness in my heart that as long as my child is on this earth, they/we must live with a visible reminder of the sinful state of man. It is with great comfort that we can rest assured in His grace, and loving arms, knowing God will bless us through our children, whether disabled physically or mentally, and most importantly that any child born has the capacity to know Christ as their saviour and friend! Praise God for that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7807842629602038882.post-6465761585694927642008-10-19T20:44:00.000+11:002008-10-19T20:44:00.000+11:00Hmm, thought provoking post. We too chose not to h...Hmm, thought provoking post. We too chose not to have the early ultrasounds cause we figured their wasn't a whole lot of point.<BR/><BR/>I read a book called 'Love Ella' written by a woman that I know, Madeleine Witham. It is her story of loving and caring for a daughter with CDLS (a rare syndrome - you might need to google it). She made the point that when people said 'as long as it's healthy' around her - it was very hurtful. Although unintended, this comment basically said to her 'I don't want a child like yours'. Yet anyone who knows a child with a disability will know what special people they are and the unique things God has put in them. <BR/>So reading this really has made me very cautious in choosing my words when answering that question.Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04140864566736266210noreply@blogger.com